27 Mar The In-Between
We don’t talk enough about the in-between—the part where we’re considering change, but the way forward isn’t clear. It’s easier to celebrate the finish line, the moment a goal is achieved. But there’s something just as worthy in the messy middle. It takes real strength to leave the comfort of the familiar and step into the uncertainty of what’s next. And there’s something deeply moving about that moment—when someone stands in the in-between, willing to wrestle with the questions that don’t have easy answers.
From the outside, it can look like being stuck. But it’s not. There is energy and activation under the surface—a quiet collision between where you’ve been and where you might go next. It starts the moment you begin to question the status quo. So, even if you don’t know how to change things yet, you’re already moving.
The in-between is a strange place. It’s not where you started, and it’s not quite where you want to be, either. It’s the moment after you realize something needs to change but before you know how to make it happen—or feel confident enough to try. It can feel like standing on the edge of a river, unsure how to cross. You look at the expanse ahead and wonder if it’s even necessary to go across at all.
When you’re deep in the in-between, every direction seems to offer both promise and risk. You take a step toward change, and suddenly the comfort of staying the same pulls you back. Move toward familiar ground, and the urge to grow tugs at you again. It’s easy to get stuck here, circling between yes and no, forward and back.
But if you’ve made it to the in-between, you’ve already taken a step toward change. Just recognizing the pull of two possibilities means you’re not as stuck as you think. You’ve already done one of the hardest parts. And there is a way through.
Imagine the river in front of you is dotted with stepping stones. You don’t need to leap across in one go—just find the next stone sturdy enough to hold you. Once you step onto it, the next one comes into view. One careful step at a time, you make your way across.
The same is true with the in-between. You don’t need to have everything figured out. Just look ahead and mark the next step you’ll take—when you’re ready. Until then, maybe you just wait. Maybe you let yourself linger here for a while, knowing that even waiting is part of moving forward.
The in-between is uncomfortable. And it’s also a sign that something in you is ready for more. Trust that. Find your next stone. And when you’re ready, take a step.